So i thought id ask this here but how does one not really hate oneself over this kink? I experience a lot of self hate issues over it because of how…taboo / weird people find the kink. Also since theres such few nsfw spaces where we can really…exclaim about it. I thought id ask it here since…chances are theres at least someone on here whos experienced self hate because of the kink.
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I wish I could trade it in for a new #1 turnon. It’s hard having a rare fetish and still feel part of “normal” humanity. The truth is that we are all unique and have diverse likes and dislikes. I just learned to live with it and enjoy it. At least we all have a place in the forums to not feel alone in being aroussed by burping.
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I wish we could know what everyone else is into because I’m pretty sure a lot more people are into more weird shit than we think. It’s hard to cope with at times, but it’s better than a kink that’s harmful and it could be a lot weirder honestly. I def go through self hate at times…we just have to push through the guilt and pain. The right partner will understand and love that part of us.
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I’ve personally never really thought about it as embarrassing. In reality, whether it’s fetishistic or not, we all like what we like due to psychological factors. Most of us are just normal people who simply like burping because it’s taboo. People like to be shit on, peed on, have their balls kicked, have women take their money and degrade them, etc. While I may personally think this is weird or whatever it truly doesn’t affect me. As long as you’re a harmless individual you really shouldn’t feel any shame towards what you like. Liking burps may be weird, but at the same time it’s kind of… it’s weird to say but normal when you consider upbringing and society and social norms and all that stuff. Maybe not normal, but when you consider all those things drawing the conclusion makes a bit more sense
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Ngl, to me it still kinda weird. I never completely dealt with the fact that it is “unusual” but there are bad things about it and good things about it. I guess it depends on the person, because not everyone really see the kink as a problem at all.
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We definitely some weirdos but so what? Nobody normal man, you could hate yourself till you keel over or you could accept yourself as is!
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I always thought about the difference of “accepting yourself” and “bearing with yourself”, they seem pretty similar to me. For example, I could be all happy about it, but the moment someone would actually start callingcall me a “weirdo” I would probably be sad af. I’m not saying this in a way to attack you or anything, just saying.
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I have always wished that I wasn’t significantly more turned on by burping than anything else. I’m almost addicted to them and obsessed about them. However, it is nice to have something relatively commonplace turn me on, I get little bursts of secret excitement with pretty decent regularity. Even the sight of a burp is hot even if I might not hear it. Also I am coming to realize that I also like when others comment on my burps when I let them out! I love a little light teasing about how burpy I am!
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Ah, man. I feel you. Literally the only type of “porn” that I watch. I’m married now and my wife rarely burps. Makes things challenging. I wouldn’t say at this point that I’m ashamed of it (although I’ve definitely been there), but it certainly makes things hard (no pun intended).
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I find it embarrassing to some degree, but I am not ashamed by it. I worry at times that a potential partner might think that I am disgusting, but that worry is more a concern about misinterpretation by someone without an understanding of kinks/fetishes than at all relevant to how I view myself.
I view my fetish as an essential component of my sexuality and do feel that there are some benefits. Similar to what @Guloman2 said, I feel that having a fetish allows avoidance of a lot of the toxic/unhealthy messaging generally intertwined with mainstream pornography. My fetish definitely allowed me to not internalize some harmful views about women.
I feel that fetishes can be a vehicle for empathy. Being a sexual “other” on one axis allows one to avoid a more mainstream sexual script and increase the likelihood that one will question things that a more normative sexuality might allow one to just assume (such as flawed ideas on consent that lead to a lot of people having a lot of bad experiences). While fetishes definitely don’t make people morally superior and can carry their own ethical concerns (like not tricking people into unwittingly playing into fetish acts that they would never have conceptualized as being sexual), the perspective of being an “outsider” precludes one’s ability to assume that vanilla, straight, and sexually traditional is the only natural way for one to be. I feel that this can open one up to increased understanding of other sexual minorities and therefore (in theory at least) improve one’s politics.
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At least you have regular sex (maybe?) and a lifelong partner! I do occasionally watch regular porn but it just doesn’t do it for me in the same way. One of my exes rarely burped and that was sad. The others burped pretty frequently!
Does your wife know?
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I got to a point in my life where I despised having this fetish because, while it started out relatively harmless, it seemed to become an addiction. Searching every corner of the internet every day for burp videos and audio, getting aroused by my burps and burps from others, spending hard earned money for belch content though living check to check at times…
Eventually, I accepted that belching on command was just something of interest in my youth, like pursuing a harmless hobby. Nothing wrong with that. The fetish kicked in as I started enjoying the feeling of belching on command. Hearing others belching with great tone reminded me of this, causing the fetish to grow. Again, harmless in itself.
What helped me overcome my concerns and finally enjoy it all now was realizing that someone else made up arbitrary “rules” about belching (and the fetish) being taboo. Rules that I was conditioned to believe, but eventually chose to disagree with.
I chose to accept that it’s okay for me to enjoy it all, provided I don’t impose on someone else’s beliefs.
It’s been a lot of fun since. Also the feeling of compulsion is gone completely, ironically resulting in me being far less compelled to do all of the things I did while thinking of it as an addiction.
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No man your 100% right, let me tell a bad bicth I’m into this and she hit with a “oh…” I’m killing myself on the SPOT.
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Yeah, I don’t know how it is to get a “turn off” by hearing a woman burp. I really don’t know how it is for people without the kink. Sometimes I wished I could understand how it is to see it happening and just be indifferent about. Not grossed out, just not to care at all like it is nothing. And if you think about it, it is nothing, it’s so insignificant that there are just a few researches about why people burp loud or more often than others since it’s usually irrelevant for almost everyone.
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That is interesting to think about. I guess there are some cultural clues like movies, TV, and in person experiences that hint at what it would be like, but yeah, those are not a proper window into what it is like to not have a fetish. I don’t generally find myself personally thinking that way, though. I do sometimes think about what it would be like to be part of a sexual minority that lends itself better to IRL community, though.
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Some people are into extreme and dangerous things as their kinks. Although ours is a little offbeat, it’s really something everyone can do and some can do extremely well. Most girls I’ve known well enough to tell have been pretty receptive to it and eager to try to learn and improve. Let me say once more, it could be waaaaaaay worse. Be proud and enjoy the possibilities of what could be with a partner! Also the SFW side of the kink’s content is seriously underrated, not that I listen to belches at work……too often……
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I’ve had a fetish long before the burping came along so I’ve always felt a little shameful. In my younger years it was hard to cope and of course people don’t make it any better (calling you weird, trying to openly embarrass you, etc). People are cruel. But my saving grace (from going off the rails I guess) was I actually got a girlfriend that wasn’t necessarily into the stuff that I was but she didn’t shun me or shame me for it and would participate and do the things I liked. She also would school me if I was being too pushy or crossing a line. That helped me get sort of a perspective from the other side. We don’t date anymore which kinda sucks, because, anytime there was an impulse I could go to somebody who i was comfortable with and she was comfortable with me and I wouldn’t have to bother random people. When I was younger I wouldn’t understand why I would be shunned or considered taboo when what I was lookin for was harmless (from my perspective). At my age now I understand that there is a way you go about things and I can cope a whole lot better. I used to be bitter at people who would shun me. They just didn’t understand and that’s okay… I can’t fault them for that. The forum also helped because before I found this I just thought I was crazy and weird and thought somethin was wrong with me (per peoples assumptions) but watching some TikTok lives there is a lot of stuff out there. Waaaaaaay stranger things. Even some of the stuff that comes across here can be a little out there (IMO) but I can’t say shit bcuz I’m out there too in a sense. I try to keep it under wraps for the most part but I’m learning to embrace it more and tell myself that nothing is wrong with me.
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Yeah i guess for me even though ive had this kink for years. I still find it difficult to not hate myself for it. I brought up my kink in my region’s furry nsfw chat and felt completely alienated from the entire group. I get the kink isnt common but its so hard to not hate myself over it being so unique.
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Theres only one person i know irl whos into it too but again its just difficult to not hate myself for the kink.
The furries judged you? LMFAO.
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