I have a younger female friend who lives in another country but she’s originally from my country (well her dad is). We met about a year ago when I went to watch our national team play a soccer game in her country of residence and we’ve been texting on Instagram a few times per month ever since. She’s also a soccer player who plays for the youth category of the national team so most of our chats are about soccer. We’re just friends, I’m not attracted to her or anything.
Since I’ve gotten into burps, I discovered that two female soccer players from our country of origin did the sprite challenge a few years ago and posted the video on TikTok. My friend got an autograph from one of the two players featured in the video. Now I kinda want to send her the video, innocently write ‘look what I found’ and see what kind of reaction I get from her. I assume she hasn’t seen the video before and I have no idea how she feels about burps and burping. I talked to her about farts once or twice very briefly but only in a humorous way and she seemed to find that funny. I never talked to her about burps or to any other female friend except one of my online friends who lives in Australia but she also has a burp fetish.
Depending on her reaction to the sprite challenge video, I might have a few questions but I’m honestly terrified. How do I go about this without making it weird or creepy? Have any of you ever been in a similar situation with a female friend (or even guy friend)? If so, how did you handle it? In terms of questions, I guess I would be interested in finding out if she ever did something like that with her soccer teammates or school friends and if it’s something she would like to try, assuming she never has.
If you want to have any sort of conversation with someone about something you are sexually turned on by with any sort of motive that the other person might engage in that, you should be clear from the start. There’s no non-creepy way to try and talk to someone about burps if you want them to burp etc. Be honest, you never know.
If they don’t bring it up, it’s next to impossible to find a way for you to. So honestly I wouldn’t… BUT if they do then go for it. That’s how it is for me, I don’t bring up anything burp related unless the opposing party does.
There’s a moral imperative involved with the burping fetish and that is to not involve people involuntarily in your sexual gains, as Kimble.burps 47 described.
It might feel paradoxical at times because an average person might bring up burping once or twice but knowing that burping gives us a sexual gain we mussn’t manipulate others into our sexual satisfaction. We can but we should not. If you set up this whole plan up it will be too concocted and you’ll feel anxiety in your heart. Just wait for a miraculous moment if she were to bring it up on her own, or something like that, it’s all we can hope for without debasing ourselves.
So we did talk about it briefly and it went surprisingly well, better than I ever thought it would. She admitted to doing the sprite challenge once with a friend in school, said that they laughed so hard that they started to cry. She felt sorry that they didn’t record it. I said that there will be other opportunities to record it and that I would totally do the sprite challenge with her. I told her she was awesome and that was it, we moved on to another topic.
Y’all are uptight as fuck about this. Sometimes bringing up burping makes the other person more comfortable to do it around you. And it’s not just a fetish thing, I genuinely want people to feel comfortable doing so around me and vice versa. It’s quite a bit different to bring up burping in casual conversation than to encourage someone to burp unbeknownst that it is a sexual thing for you (and a fetish doesn’t have to be sexual 100% of the time).
Right, I also genuinely want people to feel comfortable burping AND farting around me, fetish aside. I might or might not get turned on, it’s a plus if I do but it’s not a must. I also do not think a fetish has to be sexual 100% of the time, that’s something that a lot of people fail to grasp.
You say that but fart/burp fetishists (and probably other fetishists) only get to experience their fetish mostly by “manipulating others into their sexual satisfaction”.
maybe an unpopular opinion, but I think we need to start treating behavior like this, preying on people’s ignorance to get them to satisfy a fetish, as a form of sexual abuse comparable to grooming
(and no, this is not the only way. speaking from experience, it’s much easier to be direct)
I want you to think about the question you’re asking me, take it seriously, think about the whole position you’ve found yourself in to be asking it, and realize that this is an insane thing to type that assumes all of the other things you did to put yourself in this position were normal and not up for debate.
why are you trying to get fetish material from your friend that you claim you’re not even attracted to? with this fetish I feel like the best way is to let the experiences happen naturally rather than exploiting your so-called friends…
I’m not trying to get fetish material at all, it was just a lighthearted conversation to see how she feels about burps in general. Nothing less, nothing more. Also, I don’t need to be attracted to a girl to want to hear her burp eventually.
This isn’t talked about enough. Wanting to hear someone burp does not necessarily mean it needs to be sexualized. As someone who enjoys burps (as all of us do) I don’t only enjoy it to rub one out, there’s a lot more to wanting to hear someone burp. Whether it’s someone you’re attracted to or not, friend or not, etc.
