In short, i’ve had this burp kink all my life and have had very bad luck finding a girl who’s both accepting of it or just cant burp. If they’re accepting of it, they cant burp. If they happen to have some amazing burps, they’re not accepting of it and move on.
Life’s kinda hard when u have such a niche thing to like lol, but i’ve never really had a girl burp for me while making out or just burp for me with deep burps. That’s something I’ve always dreamed about.
Does anybody have any advice on how I can find somebody and fulfill this? I’m sure there are a lot of people in here who are into it so i’m looking forward to the advice.
If the goal is to find somebody to settle down with long term who can also burp very well, my advice would be to not centralize the process of finding a partner around your fetish. Date someone for how well you get along, your commonalities, your interests, etc, then after a few months of dating you should tell them about the fetish; maybe you’ll get lucky and they burp very well. If the fetish is that crucial for your relationship, just move on if they can’t fulfill it and try again with the next person. Eventually you will find someone who’s compatible with you who can also satisfy your fetish, it will happen if you give it time, you just have to be patient.
If you’re just dating someone for their burps, more often than not the relationship won’t last.
In my (22m) experience, I dated a girl who couldn’t burp at all, she had r-cpd. My burping fetish is a significant part of my sexuality, and during that time with her I never felt sexually fulfilled. After ending things with her it didn’t take long before I met my current gf (21f) of three years, who I fell in love with for many reasons, burping wasn’t one of them. It was after we started dating when I found out she can burp pretty well, and intimacy with her is my absolute paradise. It will happen to you too, just gotta trust the process.
agreed overall with the last reply but waiting a few months only to break up if they can’t burp well is not a good idea imo. That’s such a long time, it would be terrible to just end things there when you can easily figure out your fetish compatibility much sooner. Personally I would bring it up as soon as you start being intimate/having sex.
Admittedly this is easier the sooner you start being intimate. My gf and I initially were hooking up before we started dating, which made it easy to bring up kinks on basically our first or second “date”. She turned out to be very sexually open-minded, which was a big green flag for me and later I ended up asking her out officially.
If you’re not just hooking up straight away, I could imagine things being awkward if you turn out to be totally sexually incompatible and don’t realize it for a while
But I’ll lastly say that imo compatibility has more to do with open-mindedness rather than pure burping skills, and that’s something you can usually assess before having sex. If someone really likes you and is very open-minded, they can often (not always) get better over time, which happened with my gf. Were the girls who you say were “accepting of it” not able to improve?
Yeah I agree with this, if you can talk about it as soon as possible that would be best. Three months seems like a good sweet spot for me, but if you’re becoming more intimate together before that, might as well explore.
I would consider, like others have said, that people can improve significantly at it over time. I saw a girl a few months ago who I told and in just a week or so she had improved significantly. If things continued I don’t doubt she could’ve become quite good overall
But I also understand your thought process. If it’s an important factor to you, it makes sense to ‘get it out of the way’ first and save everyone time. I am the same way to a degree, just in that I find myself bringing it up pretty early into talking, at least compared to how long I used to take about it. It’s only if they’re opposed to it that it becomes a dealbreaker, but I can’t say I’ve had that happen recently if at all.
Yeah so just to clarify, i’m not really looking for someone on the long term, just someone who can burp really well and have fun for some time. But either way this is amazing advice when I do choose to go long term. Maybe 3 months is a bit long like the other guy said so i’ll probably open up sooner
Flotsam, to answer your question, surprisingly no. Which is odd since I know about the ‘getting better’ deal with the burps over time. But to be fair, it has been only one person who was willing to improve her burps for me. This also took place over a couple of months too
some of y’all have such a weird minset towards sex
It’s not weird to want to have casual sex or hookup with people and be open about your desires in that process. You might not find people who want to engage with what you like, but don’t be so worried about “scaring partners away.” Just be honest about what you want. That honesty itself can be very attractive.
Most women tend to dislike sexual comments from strangers, so it’s better to keep those to yourself until she’s comfortable talking about them. I wouldn’t have thought that’s controversial really, it’s mostly just being aware of her feelings.
