Hi there!!
I’ve been with my boyfriend for two months; before that, we’d been friends for three years. We’re pretty close in our relationship and we share a lot of personal things.
The sex is pretty good, but recently he asked me if I had any fetishes. I was a little drunk at the time, so I said yes, but I didn’t tell him what my fetish was. But these past few weeks, he’s been pretty insistent on knowing about the fetish. He’s told me that whatever it is, he won’t judge me, and that he’s even willing to fulfill what ever the fetish is.
I’ve heard him accidentally burp several times, and I hear him suppressing them quite a bit. This really turns me on, as does when I burp in front of him.
He seems cool about my burps. Every time I let one out and apologize, he says “everything is okay.” But in the past, I remember hearing him say he disliked burps, and besides, burping is pretty taboo in my country.
So, I don’t know what to do in this situation. I’d love to tell him about it, but I don’t want him to think it’s weird or that I’m a freak. Any comments are welcome, thanks :)
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I feel like, aside from the comments he made about burping in the past, you have pretty much every green light to tell him about what’s going on. It’s always possible that someone can reject you - we can’t 100% predict the future - but considering his non-judgemental attitude, I think it’s unlikely for him to be very put-off. Honesty (delivered tactfully) is the best policy, and at the end of the day, if he cares about you and wants to know, he’ll likely want to work with you in figuring out what you’re both comfortable with. Just my two cents, of course, and good luck with everything!
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I think the answer to questions like this is always “yes”!
But I just think honesty is so important. agree with everything @qw_erty said. It doesn’t guarantee that someone will want to or be able to burp for you, but I haven’t had a bad expereince telling someone yet, and when it’s your partner, that feels important and relevant. His interesting in knowing what your fetish is makes me think he’d probably be pretty accepting, but either way, wouldn’t you rather be loved in the entirety of who you are rather than on the condition of hiding this part of yourself?
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You should definitely tell him. Right now, he seems supportive and open to any fetish you may have. By sharing this with him, you might also change his overall view on burping, making him more accepting of it.
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Late to the party here but yes you should tell him. He actually asked you if you had any fetishes so he is already curious and giving the go ahead to talk about what can be a sensitive issue.
Even if he has mentioned before that he doesn’t like burping he still does burp, even if he tries to suppress them. And they already turn you on so it’s kinda a win/win there. He won’t have to suppress his burps around you any more and you will get to hear them. He is probably coming form the angle of not wanting to burp loudly around you because he may think you think that is rude, or just because of the social norms in your country. His dislike for burps doesn’t seem personal or anything. He even is OK with you burping around him.
Also, since he was asking you about fetishes, maybe he also has one he is self-conscious to tell you and he wanted you to go first. The fact you baited him by not denying the existence of your fetish surely isn’t sustainable anyway, he knows you have one now and he isn’t going to give up until you tell him. He’s done all he can on his side of it by reassuring you he won’t judge. I’d say he is willing and ready to hear it.
If you did already tell him id be curious to know how it went? I’m sure it will work out well for you.
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