I’ve written before about my experiences as a woman on the forums in the past and, yeah, not a particularly friendly place for women here. Would love to have a dedicated space for women somewhere, but seems like it’d be difficult to gatekeep.
I’m definitely more hostile to the forums as a space of community because I’m looking to connect with people and explore the challenges that come with navigating having this fetish rather than just gooning all the time, and that combined with my gender/sexuality/transness has made me not very popular.
Being a trans woman, I struggled a lot with how tied into my “male” adolescence the fetish is and had to untangle that so it didn’t feel like a pre-transition vestige. The forums being such a male-dominated space also makes it harder to understand what it means to be a woman and a lesbian with this fetish and to not view that as something inherently masculine to have. But over the past year I’ve come to accept the fetish as part of my lesbianism and developed a much more comfortable relationship with it and my sexuality as a whole.
If you’d like to chat more, my DMs are open (and even though I’m also gay, you don’t have to worry about me hitting on you because I have a wonderful committed partner)
Thank you for sharing this. I love your perspective on seeking genuine connections instead of merely engaging in sexual experiences. It seems that people often assume everything must be sexual simply because this is a fetish site, rather than focusing on developing a deep bond and understanding with one another.
Im not a woman, but I do heavily respect the desire to talk about life with the kink other than simply watching porn. I dont usually have too much to add to those conversations due to my own relative inexperience (and also I just generally try to handle things in real life so I dont usually feel the need to ask for advice on here lol) but I do appreciate when people feel comfortable sharing or giving advice, since I greatly enjoy hearing the different perspectives
I also think its very worthwhile to talk about how the experience of being on here might be different for different users - Y’know, Intersectionality and all that - so Im glad to see threads like this popping up.
As a female with this fetish
I too experience a lot men pretending to be a woman .. I be willing prove I’m a female but they will say they don’t to reveal theirselves but want to see me is crazy
I actually have a friendship with another female I met on the old forum years ago .. we are friends to this day ..
i couldn’t believe we found each other on the old forum since we don’t have our actual messages I say 2011 she say we met on the forum in 2012
But I’m grateful to have made a best friend from here
Hey I’m a woman w the fetish! I often feel p lonely and isolated in the community and don’t have anyone to talk to so I always love to see fellow like minded gals :)
Ah, funny how this site lets me see user’s topics… oh wait, just like u did to me. Surprisingly, you wouldnt believe me when i called u or allegedly your gender “stupid”, but then u do shit like this… moving across country for a fetish. Yeah, thats gotta be very smart
Seems you’re on a mission to drive away all the women on this forum. Seems counterproductive to behave this way, but at least they know straight away who to avoid.
Anyway I’m a male but I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. That way it’s obvious you won’t want to disclose your gender and fetishes. It also sucks that you have to clarify your orientation to keep creeps away (and even then it doesn’t work apparently…)
I just hope you don’t think it’s a gender issue; I’ve encountered several women who are excellent people and others who are pricks, so I think it’s the same the other way around. Sadly in fetish centered communities it’s true you’ll find a lot of very weird men and your view may skew a lot.
I was just wondering today if this fetish was 100% male dominated so it’s interesting to see it’s not exactly the case, so your experiences are really interesting to read! I hope this eventually becomes a safer space for women and threads like this are a great first step.
