My boyfriend and I have been together now for a year. He has the most amazing burps I’ve ever heard (he often belches out loud and they’re deep, long, and loud) but I have not revealed my fetish to him. I know this has been discussed on the forum, but any suggestions on how to tell him, especially since we’ve been together for a year? He’s a super nice guy, I just am afraid he might think I’m a total freak for admitting the fetish lol. I’m just scared he’ll look at me differently if I tell him.
I think it depends a little bit on your relationship and your personalities, but I think broadly speaking if you’ve been together for a year, and he loves you, then I think he would be happy to learn more about you and your desires, and wouldn’t judge you for them. If he’s a good guy, he’ll understand. We all have skeletons in our closets, and this kink is hardly one to be ashamed of.
If you want, you could frame the conversation as something you are kind of embarrassed of (even though you shouldn’t be!), just to ease into it a bit. With the understanding that this is a part of yourself you’ve struggled to accept, it might help him approach the topic with empathy, support and acceptance.
Again I don’t know what kind of relationship you two have or what kind of people you are, all I can really offer is that this fetish is not something to really be ashamed of. Yeah it’s a little unusual, but it’s safe, it’s fun, it’s not harming anyone, and a good guy who loves you should definitely understand.
Thanks! Definitely needed to hear “it’s a little unusual, but it’s safe, it’s fun, it’s not harming anyone.” I guess I’m realizing I have some shame built up around my fetish, so admitting it to him is going to make me feel pretty vulnerable. I know he’s a great guy and I’m sure he’ll be fine with it, but of course my mind goes immediately to the worst outcome lol.
If your boyfriend already has amazing burps, maybe it’s for the best that you just let them happen. I told my partners pretty early on except the one that burped all the time anyway. But since you’ve been together so long, I don’t see the harm in starting the conversation up asking about his kinks.
I have heard of people say discuss it over a cup of tea or something or sometimes in the moment of passion. take my advice with a pinch of salt but yeah.