21F here. Being ace/aro plus having this niche fetish has made me feel pretty hopeless about ever finding someone irl who’s in the same boat.
I’d love to share the kink in-person with someone I were really close to someday, but it seems like such an unrealistic pipe dream. I think it’s super unlikely to find a friend that’d be comfortable burping together, and relationship-wise, there are so few people out there who’d want to engage in a fetish without also expecting sex.
While I’ve talked to some utterly amazing people on here as per my last post, it often feels like being ace is a death sentence for finding like-minded people. I guess I’m reaching out to see if anyone has a more positive perspective or just wants to connect over this, since it’s been a really frustrating experience.
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I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, I totally get it. I’m not sure if I’m asexual or not, I still haven’t figured that out for myself, but even if you remove that part it’s hard enough as it is to meet someone in real life who is either willing to participate in the fetish, or is even able to participate, a large amount of women I’ve met on apps are unable to really burp, I didn’t expect it to be such a common thing.
I’m not really sure words of encouragement are helpful, like the cliche you’ll find your person blah blah blah, but I’m sure there are many of us on here that can relate to how you’re feeling at the very least, if you want to chat over the topic or in general that would be nice!
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I am also Aro Ace and I have found some like minded people, there will always be someone out there. There must be fringe apps that would allow someone to find a like minded belcher
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Thank you so much for mentioning that, it honestly means a lot. It’s so hard to find people who’d be comfortable with or capable of indulging the fetish to begin with, as you said, so adding the differing orientation makes it even more complicated. Like this is how it feels:
Burp Fetish = pretty low chance at finding a partner willing and able to indulge you
Asexuality = pretty low chance at finding a partner comfortable with lack of desire for or repulsion towards sex
Burp Fetish x Asexuality = doubly low chances at finding anyone compatible, period
I think there are a lot of genuinely amazing aspects of being asexual and I hate to be such a downer talking about it, but the incompatibility issues are so frustrating. Whenever I see people post about their gassy new partners, it always makes me feel pretty sad… like if I were just straight/gay/bi, there’d be a chance that I could have that too. But because I’m not, it seems like there’s virtually no possibility of it.
I genuinely appreciate you mentioning that though, it’s absolutely helpful to discuss this stuff with anyone who understands. I can’t thank you enough for the support, it’s beyond heartening to heart from people in similar situations. 
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I am allosexual but there are a lot of aces here. Start talking to each other. lol
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Could I ask how you managed to find the people you’ve connected with (did they come from asexual communities/platforms/apps, or were you able to meet them elsewhere on other fetish sites, in-person, etc.)? Thank you so much for the encouragement, the reassurance really means a lot.
Lol I know 
You can be the conversation facilitator for our little support group haha
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mainly an app that has shut down I’m afraid, I am sure there must be a reddit page that has more people on there.
Ah that’s a bummer, but thank you for letting me know anyways. I scoured Reddit the other week actually and felt like I couldn’t find as many subs as I did in the past? (It seems like r/burptok is really the only substantial place for the fetish now over there, and obviously it’s mostly people sharing content, not so much looking for community or anything)
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I wish you the best of luck in finding like minded people
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