Struggling with my gf who is not very good at belching at all. I had an ex who could burp in college and could let it rip but I was hung up on the fact that she couldn’t do it on command. In my current situation I would kill for what I used to have with my ex (grass is always greener)
Scenario - you’ve found someone you’re compatible with but your burping needs are not met. Is this something you can live without or back to the search?
then you are the problem not her. not to be blunt but you sound like a selfish dick
Your girlfriend deserves better than someone who’s biggest concern is her satisfying their fetish
Love is mutual not just about your sexual urges and if you continue down this path you will be alone forever. it is not about them fulfilling your sexual desires, it should be about loving them for them not just because they do a thing that makes you hard. some things are a bonus in life and satisfying a fetish is one of them.
I get what others are saying, and the way you worded the post is not doing your character any favors. However, I’ll offer a different perspective.
Sexual compatibility is important. If, at this moment in your life, you absolutely require good burping skill to be sexually fulfilled, then that’s something you should be aware of. If you’re with a partner that isn’t able to do that, then you’re not sexually compatible.
In a vacuum, this is equivalent to not dating overweight women or only dating tall men. It’s a necessary sexual preference. However, as is the case with many in this forum (including me), we do not require this kink to be sexually fulfilled. While it may be difficult to impossible to change your taste in physical features, it is much easier to re-train your dependence on burping. If it’s limiting your sexual selection I would really recommend looking into that.
To conclude, if your otherwise great relationship is only suffering because of your sexual addiction to burps, but you don’t foresee yourself attempting to fix this, then break up with her. You’re wasting both her and your time. You didn’t really provide any other information, so I can’t tell you much more than that. Either way, I’d recommend limiting your exposure to burping in a sexual context to curb your dependence at least a bit. It sounds like it’s impacting your relationship quality and that is not healthy.
Ok I also just read your other post and you should seriously do some self reflection. That is extremely creepy and it sounds like you have some bigger issues going on.
Everyone here shaming you probably won’t help your situation. It sounds very important to you to be with someone who can burp well.
Is she open to learning? Maybe you can enjoy the process of her slowly getting better at it together. Who knows she might secretly be good at it, but just has to learn. You can imagine how good she could get at it which may be arousing, especially if you notice progress.
Have you asked her about her burps when you are not around? Given how you speak, it seems you would be putting pressure on her to do it around you. This can make burps worse, especially for people who are not well practiced.
Whether it’s a dealbreaker for others is irrevelant. If it’s a dealbreaker for you, I suggest you stop stringing her along. Don’t mean this to be a putdown. If you’re trying to “make it work” then it probably won’t.
Apologies for the poor phrasing, did not intend for it to come off like that at all. Anywho, thanks all for the input.
It’s okay man we get it, we all have the same ailment lol. As long as your cherishing her for what she does have and not getting to hung up on what she doesn’t. I have faith in your character👍🏾.
Jesus Christ, these god awful comments are not passing the vibe check, at all. This site definitely needs more moderation.
There’s a lot to unpack here. First and foremost, and maybe I’m approaching this from a different perspective than straight men (or women) but… if you have a certain need in a relationship that is not being met, you’re not necessarily wrong for feeling that way BUT your choices are to communicate, compromise, or break it off. And understand that if they genuinely do not want to do it or do not feel comfortable doing it that the conversation about it should end there. If you genuinely cannot be with someone who will never fill that need, what may feel like a void otherwise, then it’s probably best you break it off and then figure out things from there.
THAT SAID, before all of that, look into why you feel like it’s something you NEED. Because, I’m very big into burping myself, I mean I’m on this forum. But it’s not a requirement for me. I don’t need someone to rip monster burps, it would be a plus, but burping is pretty natural and the way that it happens naturally if you’re around someone long enough is genuinely enough for me. Outside of the fetish, my wants and needs for a relationship and attraction are pretty vanilla. I’d be devastated honestly if this was a deal breaker for me. So why is it for you? Do you have a fetish-porn addiction, has it altered your idea of relationships and reciprocation, etc? In that case, it would be very similar to a man having a porn addiction and wanting things that are unrealistic or that are simply not possible. I would probably work on changing that if possible. Because, while most preferences and needs are for the most part justified, they do not exist in a vacuum and this fetish is very niche and you’ve gotta realize that. It shouldn’t be the leading factor in what you want out of a relationship.
Hopefully this helps. I’m scratching my head at why it’s so hard for people to have real discussions here and why this place is turning into a cesspool of creeps and insults. Are the straights ok???
I’m not straight
I’m gonna disagree with most people here. You are not evil because you want to have a sexually fulfilling relationship. For a successful relationship you need to have both non-sexual and sexual compatibility and it’s fine to feel like there’s something wrong if one of those things is missing.
To feel the need for sexuality in a relationship isn’t an addiction, nor a dependence, nor any of these words that suggests some kind of moral violation. Addictions exist, and sex addictions exist, but that term gets thrown around way too easily. Unless you’re skipping work because you can’t stop watching porn etc then you don’t have a sex addiction.
I do agree that you should talk to your partner about it. Maybe don’t compare her with your ex but at least let her know that it’s something that you consider meaningful. More couples than you would think get trapped in sexless relationships with both people afraid to bring up the subject since it’s a sensitive one. But that’s not a fun existence and I’d advise talking to your girlfriend as honestly as you can about what you want in life.
I agree with weird4me and Q. Talk to her about it and be both honest and respectful.
Hate to say it but this fetish can become self consuming and it is what it is, not everyone has this problem but it can def happen. I definitely would not break up with a girl that I was compatible with who had an issue burping or couldn’t fulfill my fetish because I can probably live without it, especially if I love her. You have to be very careful with this fetish, because even myself have realized that I’ve come to a point where I’m definitely watching too much porn involving burping and it’s affecting the way that shit is going down for me in person even if it’s with somebody who’s also performing this type of fetish; if it’s not good enough I struggle. If I was you, I would take a break off of this fetish for a while and try to stop watching it or thinking about it and try to stop masturbating to it. Doing something like this right now and I think it will do good in the long run lol.
Also, OP, I would not listen to what this person theghost says at all. Just my two cents.
What is your issue? if you don’t like me just say so.
U just cause issues on here w misinformation, trolling and nonsense all the time so anything you say is worth ignoring
Misinformation about what? I don’t want to put holes in your statement sir but it feels like you are just waffling. Calling out bigots will make the forums safer for minorities but defend the Trump Supporters by all means. I hope it makes your dick hard or something.
No, you just come on here and cause drama and complain and say things that bother people on purpose because you’re truly a troll and that’s all you really are there ain’t anything else to it and everybody else knows exactly what I’m talking about