Sometimes, I don’t even know why. Often I don’t know why. I just feel like shit sometimes and I don’t know what to do in those times.
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Like mentally or physically
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It depends why you feel that way? Some examples: don’t accept yourself with your failures. To feel overwhelmed (work/responsibility etc), isolated etc.
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Both
I’m sure with some thought I could have an answer but in the moment I just don’t know
Im sorry
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I think humans are bored, dissatisfied etc by default, but our brains are a dice roll and sometimes those negative emotions are experienced more strongly for some people for no particular reason. Exercise is sometimes an effective solution, and is generally the first thing I’d try. Otherwise there are drugs etc which imo are not such a great idea but sometimes necessary. Usually you just have to wait it out. If you can gain the ability to look at yourself from a third person perspective, not react on emotions, but understand why the emotions are there and whether they make sense, that’s a useful skill too.
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I often feel pretty shit myself. Not often the times because of this fetish, though sometimes its adjacent. Heck last night I thought of something Ive never thought in a long-ass time, which is coming to terms that I will never be good enough for someone and that a lot of people are just better off without me. Not in a suicidal thought kinda way. No no. Just in a “I might love someone but I can’t see myself caring enough for them to understand basic things about them.” Kinda way. I dont know how to improve myself. I dont know how to obtain the meaningful relationships that will help push me to new limits. I just kinda feel stuck.
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There’s got to be some sort of trigger, like before you get the feeling. Pay attention to what that thing(s) is/are and try to make changes around that. In general, taking care of yourself (exercise, good diet, sleep) help the baseline be higher. If you can get yourself to do those things. Start small.
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Exercise can’t hurt but it never actually improves my mood or my sleep like people say it should. Lifting just makes me feel better about myself.
To answer your question, of course. I have a number of mental health issues (e.g. anxiety, depression, etc.), most of which went unaddressed for most of my life, and I’ve been doing trauma work in therapy for the first time. I would recommend trying to find a good therapist if it’s covered by your insurance.
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I find the same about lifting, but cardio seems to have some effect. It’s not like a drug like some people claim but it does something.
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No question. I’ll second that working out does help a lot. Just gotta keep it going. Do things you know are good for you even when you don’t feel good or rewarded at the time and you’ll almost certainly feel better eventually.
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I used to more when I was younger, nowadays I’m pretty at peace with myself. For me exercise never helped, unless you count walking. For me that’s the only thing that distracts my body a bit and lets me think, and usually after a few hours I feel a lot better.
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I feel like shit randomly. I think it’s not uncommon nowadays, so you’re surely in good company.
When I feel like shit, I find taking walks in nature to be therapeutic. Even something as absurd as going outside and digging your hands in dirt or sniffing leaves can be therapeutic for relieving one’s sense of shittiness. If I can muster the will to do some hobby, play some music or write, that also helps. Writing especially is an understated means of sorting through emotional turmoil. Dance, do some chores, destroy something, invent something, etc. Loads of options. If you don’t know, just pick one at random and investigate.
At the very least, talking about it is a healthy thing to do. I’m glad you felt comfortable enough to ask here.
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I gotta say I appreciate all your guys’ responses and have been taking them into consideration. Not every day can be a good or even average day, and I understand that. I just gotta figure out what to do when those bad days come haha
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Physically I feel like shit 70% of the time. Mentally I get extremely overwhelmed at times, due to me trying to process and conquer too many things at once. I know I should deal with one situation at a time, but something in the back of my mind, keeps reminding me how fast time has been flying lately and how short life is
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I’m good bro how about you?
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Honestly it would be pretty nice to have a check in thread to help foster the community that we are sometimes so sorely lacking, to help folks remember there are real people on the other side of the text box. Good going, man.
As for myself, I’ve been struggling with loneliness. I have friends but they’re surface level here. All my closest friends are in another state (I moved). Also, I’ve been single for over 5 years, unless you count a situationship that ended still 4 years ago almost. I don’t feel like I’m ready to put myself out there again, but that doesn’t make me crave physical intimacy and non-platonic affection any less. Hell, I would even accept a crush just for the excitement. I’m existentially bored and dissatisfied. Understimulated.
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There’s still time for you to learn how to drive if you want to. It’s never too late, honestly. I am guessing you live somewhere without adequate public transportation?
I haven’t actually been on that many “dates” in the traditional sense, although I’ve had a decent number of sexual partners and a few girlfriends. I feel like dating is becoming more of a thing of the past. I felt that way when I was younger and it looks pretty grim for Gen Z and Gen Alpha unless they go the trad route. 
ASMR has never done anything for me, but I’m curious what kind of content you watch to give that kind of simulation. I sometimes hug myself. I do get hugged about once a week but it’s entirely platonic. I went several years without a hug before last year. That will do anyone’s head in! I could use a new hobby though for sure. I have ADHD and I flit from thing to thing and my default state is boredom.
I wouldn’t consider neurodivergence that much of an impediment to a healthy social life, but it turns out many of my friends are neurospicy and got diagnosed later in life also. Go figure.
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Absolutely. Sometimes the stars just don’t align, man. Maybe you slept bad last night, maybe you’re more anxious today, maybe you’re thinking about stuff you should do too much, could be anything. Honestly, you don’t necessarily need to do anything. I tend to just call those days a wash, relax as much as I can and move on. Tomorrow is almost always better the day after a shit day.
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