I don’t know if this is more suitable for here or uncategorized and I’ll move the post if need be, but I’m curious, any other people here who are autistic with the fetish? From briefly browsing other fetish spaces, I’ve found quite a few people that have autism, adhd, both, or something else entirely. I personally have both autism and adhd. It makes me wonder if we’re more susceptible to developing fetishes…
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I have it (ASD), and personally was asked about fetishes once by a psychologist but quickly jumped to the next topic and didn’t say anything. My (basic) understanding is that people on the spectrum are more likely to have ‘paraphilias’ (fetishes).
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I’m not autistic, but I’ve read a bit too about the link between autism and fetishes. Autistic men also tend to feel stronger sexuality which I think is also related.
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I am autistic, too. I feel we do have the tendency to get fetishes just because we tend to fixate in stuff we like, which is exactly a fetish lol
I will say it was a journey to get to a point where I did not feel like the fetish occupied a lot of my time. I had to teach myself to only indulge when I actually had the time lol
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It is about balancing it, so to speak, and having it in the right place in your life. That’s what I found as I got older anyway.
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This is pretty enlightening! I’m borderline ASD as well and didn’t know about the fetish correlation. I also have a few other kinks besides the obvious one.
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I also have other fetishes (body hair and probably exhibitionism), but I’m at a stage where I just embrace them (responsibly). Life’s too short to be worrying about what others think.
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That second paragraph is so real lol. Though even then, when I’m doing Something not related to my fetishes, it’s still always in the back of my mind
I haven’t been diagnosed but my parents have suggested that I’m likely on the spectrum.
I’ve been thinking (and writing in some other topics here) about my sexuality outside of this fetish recently and part of that is having certain desires/fantasies adjacent to the puppygirl/lite-petplay thing, and I’ve heard a lot of people into that sort of thing talk about how being allowed to devolve into an animal and surrender control is deeply linked to their autism. I wonder how our fetish connects for those of you who are on the spectrum? I wonder if avoiding more typical sexual expression is some way of getting around the complicated social norms around “normal sex” and, in my experience, maybe cutting myself off from even fantasizing in a way that involves me personally, so even in my fantasies I don’t have to engage with other people, just observe and experience.
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i feel like people with autism experience fomo, they get really upset when they miss a burp or a live, not sure if this is the case with everyone since i’ve only interacted with one autistic dude on here who showed major distress over that
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Well, I would say it depends of how deep in the spectrum you are AND/OR if you developed a burping obsession (which is not the same as a fetish). Not all autistic people lack self control.
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I was diagnosed autistic and ADHD, both as an adult. One of the questions on an early screening questionaire I was asked to complete was actually “do you have unusual and highly specific sexual preferences?” Autistic people are both more likely to have a niche fetish and more likely to display hypersexuality associated with their fetishes than the general population (there are research papers about this floating around if you search for autism and paraphilia).
My diagnostic report notes that I have a slightly unusual presentation in that whilst i have lots of transient interests that I will hyperfocus on (my adhd), and lots of recurring obsessions, I don’t have one abididing and overiding lifelong “special interest” that I hyperfocus on (as is common in autistic individuals).
…I of course do have just such an interest, but I was hardly going to sit there as an adult and describe to the psyhiatrists in my medical assessment how i’ve been carefully analysing, storing, categorising and ranking burping videos and audio since I was 8 years old, and how before that I was obsessed with researching the digestive tract, social customs and etiquette around burping, drawing pictures and writing stories about people belching, and collecting clipings from comic books where characters burped. 
I’m high functioning and I’d normally mask a lot better than this and seem much less obsessive but, ya know, autism post 
so I may as well be true to type and overshare awkwardly here in this thread 
A LOT of the people I talk to in this community strongly trigger my autism radar though 
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Sometimes I think about the fact that being able to say the same word in like 15 different languages would be a fun trick to show people but…
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That would impress them.
The trouble would start when you go on to demonstrate that you can spell them all and know how to conjugate the verb endings for all of them too, even the non-roman alphabet languages. Just for that one word though 
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Very much this, indeed lol
I don’t have any diagnoses but when I think about my behaviour growing up, and even now, I definitely have some characteristics common to people on the spectrum (hyperfixations, difficulty with eye contact, the need to organise and categorise things, and apparently “unusual and highly specific sexual preferences”)
I’ve never really thought about this in relation to my fetishes, but it seems to match as well. Like, i can definitely relate to @jay901 's point about displaying hypersexuality associated with my fetishes. And all that stuff about researching and analysing videos, social customs, drawing and writing hits way too close to home as well haha
If I am on the spectrum, I’m more towards the neurotypical end.
I think there’s definitely a correlation between asd and fetishism, but it would interesting to know if there’s any causative relationship.
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I have not been diagnosed, but I would not be surprised if I was, and honestly seeing a thread like this kind of wants to make me go out and try to be diagnosed - BUT I also know that it is extremely expensive where I live and probably isn’t going to happen, not for a long time, and that’s unfortunate.
One of my friends was just diagnosed with autism, it makes me wonder if they realized that burping is one of my hyperfixations, considering I am sure they’ve caught on. Don’t want to think of that too hard, though… this isn’t a fetish at this point, it’s an obsession.
I feel your pain.
I have not been able to get the diagnosis here in the US just because it is very expensive.
My therapist is from a Latin American country and so she is the one who made the diagnosis via behavioral studies. Both her and my primary care doctor want me to go to a neurologist, but of course I have to put down the $2,000 cost out of pocket… Not happening.
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Hey,
maybe I’m lucky or not, but ADHD/autistic here. Always had girlfriends who were open to the kink after a while as I told them right away. I was just honest about it. I feel no shame about myself and my sexuality.
Even revealed it to a friend group.
Sometimes you need to be cautious, but you’re the captain of your ship. Human will follow…
Just don’t be CaptainSaveaHoe…
Any you know what? I’m proud of it.
One of them was really gassy and hot…
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