I told my boyfriend today after much much MUCH thought and worry about whether or not I should tell him. He’s been more and more comfortable burping around me lately and even asked me to pat his back last night to help him get one out before we went to sleep. So today I decided to say it and not look back. I knew he wouldn’t judge me anyhow- because quite frankly, if I tell him anything he does turns me on he’ll be happy. I told him I think it’s hot when he burps. He asked me how/why and then told me I shouldn’t have said that because now he’ll be burping all the time. Then he proceeded to send me audio messages of him burping and facetimed me twice just because he had a big one to show me. I don’t think he gets it but he’s happy to just be participating, which is cute. Anyway. Moral of the story is go ahead and do it. Say it in a lighthearted way- tell them you find it cute or attractive when they do it. They’ll most likely be flattered.
I told my then boyfriend when we had just started dating. He now simply lets them rip whenever he feels like it, and he does not mind my own either.
I’ve been wondering about this a lot lately. I’m in a new relationship - my first serious one after a very long-term one that ended a couple of years back. I told that partner about the fetish, and at the time he seemed fine with it - then, fast forward to the end of the relationship (like 10 years later), and he suddenly decided to tell me that the fetish had been weirding him out all that time, and that was the reason he hadn’t wanted to have sex with me for the last 5 years of the relationship.
So, yeah. I’m a little wary of telling my current partner. He’s a very different person from the previous one - much better at communicating, and much more into prioritising my pleasure. Still, as you can imagine, I’m kind of scarred from that experience. I’m happy to hear from those of you who’ve had a positive experience telling their partner. I’m currently working with a sex therapist to delve into this and explore ways to tell him. So far she’s suggested giving positive feedback when he burps (which he does A LOT, and out loud - I think I’ve hit the jackpot here 
) - such as a giggle, a light touch, a playful comment. I’m attempting these things but was raised in a family where burping was very much not encouraged, and that coupled with my arousal when it happens means I often just freeze awkwardly and carry on as though nothing had happened 
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Maybe someday I’ll gain the confidence to tell him. It’s very encouraging hearing all your stories.
I’m sorry you had that experience with your last partner where the fetish became an issue. Basically everybody I know knows about the fetish, and I usually mention it before any meet ups with potential play partners/dates, but I haven’t really had any bad expereinces telling people about the fetish yet though I know some people here have. It’s a complicated part of our lives and I haven’t had a long enough relationship with another person involving fetish play to know how that kind of thing can play out in the long run. But I believe pretty strongly in the power of honesty and open communication. Frankly, the worst case scenario for telling your partner now (discovering it’s an incompatibility that he doesn’t feel comfortable with) seems a lot prefereable to hiding it from him only to reveal it later and make him wonder why you weren’t comfortable revealing this part of yourself to him for so long. Being vulnerable with people is hard but I think that vulnerability will be rewarded. I think there are absolutely ways to encourage your partner to burp more or to feel comfortable burping around you, maybe even to subtly imply that you’re into it without having to say “burp fetish,” but I question why you would want to do that rather than being able to be open about what you want and your history with this fetish. I think the best approach to this situation is to be direct about who you are but letting him choose how he wants to respond or what he wants to offer (rather than asking him to do something for you). Hope this advice is helpful.
If you’re comfortable talking about it, I’d be curious to hear more about your relationship with your ex and how you approached this kind of conversation with him, as well as more of what he said about it after you broke up. It seems like you have a wound from that which is making it harder to be forward with your new partner.
Thanks for your thoughtful comment, I appreciate it 
I told my ex straight up, about 2 years into the relationship when we started living together properly (we’d been long distance for a lot of the previous time). I just said to him that I found it sexy when he burped. He was surprised at first, but then seemed cool with it, letting one out then and there in a kind of cheeky manner.
For a while after that if a character burped in a movie we were watching, or anything, he’d nudge me or give me a subtle sign that he knew what was going on. We once tried it during sex, but that was it - I can’t remember if he communicated this, but I think he found it kind of awkward (there were definitely communication issues in this relationship). There were a lot of other sexual issues too, caused by health problems, poor communication, and what I now realise was declining attraction on my part due to his decline in taking care of himself physically. It got to the point where he didn’t want to touch me at all, and I just felt completely and objectively unattractive.
Then it wasn’t till 10 years later, when we broke up, that he came out with this statement that the fetish had been grossing him out all this time, and he hasn’t wanted to tell me because he loved me and didn’t want to hurt me (yeah, logical, I know). Now I think there was an element of him just trauma dumping everything on me because he was hurting from the breakup (I initiated it, for many other reasons), but the fact that he’d apparently been thinking that all these years made me feel really insecure in telling anyone else. I trusted him, and I thought when I told him that our relationship was for the long haul. I had never told anyone else.
With my current partner, it’s not that I need to encourage him to burp more or be more comfortable with it - hell, he already is, I’m very lucky - but just about whether or not I feel safe to tell him. I love and care about him deeply, and I would be devastated if this disclosure ended things. It’s not even that I need him to burp more during sex - the way things are now (i.e., natural burps before, during and after sex whenever they happen) would be fine for me. I don’t want him to do more than he feels comfortable with or exacerbate the stomach issues he has which are causing the burps. It’s really the icing on the cake of a relationship that is very satisfying sexually as it is, and I don’t want to cross any boundaries.
I hope that gives some more context. Sorry for the wall of text and thanks again for your thoughts!
People say all sorts of stuff at the end of a relationship. I wouldn’t read into it too deeply. It’s more likely to be an emotional reaction to the frustration and stress that comes when people split up than anything sincere.
that was the reason he hadn’t wanted to have sex with me for the last 5 years of the relationship.
I guarantee this part isn’t true. You were probably just less sexually compatible than you thought.
And sexless relationships are actually very common, even amongst those which initially did seem to have some compatibility. Another one of those things that happens that people tend to not want to talk about.
I think it’s a good idea to tell your new partner as soon as you can anyway. Not everyone has a positive reaction to this fetish, but most people seem fine with it. I think the best philosophy is to tread carefully, and maybe test the person a bit with questions about how they would react to alternative sexual interests in general. But otherwise tell them as soon as possible because for people like us, it is a necessary part of a relationship, and the longer you leave it, the more difficult it becomes.
Thanks for the extra context!
Again, I’m sorry you had to go through that with your ex. But it does sound like the fetish wasn’t really that big of an element of why things soured. But I can understand how when it gets mentioned as A reason why the only relationship where you’ve told someone about the fetish didn’t work out, that it’d make that harder to talk about in the future.
In a broader way, one of the things I’ve learned as I’ve tried to be more proactive about dating in the past year or so is that I want to learn lessons from when things don’t work out. Like, if a potential relationship doesn’t happen, I should have at least learned something from that experience. But the truth is, people are so different that I’m not sure you can ever really learn how to anticipate issues and adjust in some universal way, and instead I just find myself with new anxieties I have to work through with new people. The only thing you can really do is be honest about yourself and how your past expereinces have shaped you. Just because the fetish was even in some way an issue for your ex does not mean it will be for your current partner.
Another broad lesson I’ve learned that I want to share is that I spent a lot of years being afraid to even reference the fetish because I wanted to keep it totally a secret. I figured I might tell potential partners when we got close enough, but until that point came, I would never ever mention it. And I still worried that if/when that day came when I told someone I loved about it, eventually we’d break up and my secret would get out there. Only recently did I accept that it doesn’t need to be that big of a deal and you can’t give it that kind of power of secrecy. Maybe I’m reading too much into what you said but the emphasis you put on the trust you had in your ex when you told him about the fetish makes me feel like maybe you’d understand this feeling. But I think once telling people about the fetish stops being a big deal, the less it’ll hurt when you tell someone about it and then things don’t work out. When it’s something you’ve only told a very small number of people, it’s a big deal to let someone into that part of yourself and it hurts more if that trust is betrayed in some way like it was with your ex. But I’ve found that if you tell basically everybody about the fetish, it’s so easy to tell potential partners because then it just isn’t that big of a deal. I’m not suggesting you need to go that far, but I do think you can mentally shift the fetish from being such a closely guarded secret and then having an easier relationship with it.
I’ll also second what @Q said about just talking about other kink or “alternative sexualities.” I think it’d make it a lot easier to have a conversation about your fetish if you feel more secure that he’s open to more than just vanilla stuff, and it can also open up room for each of you to talk about your kinks so it’s not so focused on you like “coming out” about it as its own topic. You say that your partner prioritizes your pleasure more than your ex, and I feel pretty sure that he’ll be grateful to know this part of you so you can work together to have the best possible sex life. But that’ll take open vulnerability first.
Hope this is helpful and I hope soon to see an update soon to hear about how your partner responds when you do work up the courage to tell him.
I told my current bf, pretty early on when we were getting to know each other. I opened by asking him what turned him on etc. I told him I was into burping and he was non judgemental.
We had about a year apart because he moved to Texas and when he came back, he picked up right where we left off. We became official pretty recently. Its been pretty amazing so far, I did ask him to try to learn how to burp on command and he told me he would. He’s gotten a bit better, he can burp pretty well just with water. The effort he puts in to try and turn me on makes me happy.
Its also fun seeing the ways in which I turn him on as well. I just feel like we click, its never felt more right than it has with him.
Yeah he’s a great guy all around, very mature and intelligent on top of being attractive. Honestly if he didn’t burp or just couldn’t I still would love him because of who he is. Literally the perfect guy for me and I wouldn’t trade him for anyone else
I did with my last girlfriend, a few months in, probably. I told her I had a weird fetish and she was expecting the worst and was relieved that it was something actually relatively innocuous, all things considered. She would burp for me during sex if I asked and even send me audio of her burping as surprise “gifts.”
I told a handful of women, actually. The last woman I had sex with used to tease me with her burps and genuinely enjoyed burping. I wish I hadn’t have messed that up. Two of the others also indulged the fetish for me during sex and in general burped more freely around me afterward since they knew I liked it.
If I ever date again, I will continue to be open. I always seek out kinky partners since I am kinky and attract other people who are openminded in general, not just about sex.
Edit: So I read our text thread and it turns out I told her less than a month into the relationship! We hadn’t even met in person yet (we talked online then texted daily for about a month before getting together).
Yeah I told my fiance about it a few months after we were dating at first it was weird to him. But eventually he saw how much it turns me on and that was evident during sex when he burped for me. We’ve been together over 11 years now and he still burps during sex for me and he’s not disgusted by it anymore