I’m also a girl (but a lesbian so a lil different) and I’m going to second what some of the other posters have said. I’m pretty up front about the fetish with my potential partners and also just my friends, and being able to get that out of the way upfront has made it easy to meet people who are willing or even excited to play with my fetish. With my girlfriend, I told her about the fetish in the twelfth text I ever sent her. Never had anyone be scared away and, if eventually someone is, it’s for the best (but I luckily don’t have to worry about that now because I’m so happy with my girlfriend). I think it just gets harder the longer you wait to bring it up to someone you’re seeing, so I think you should try to be upfront about it.