How to ethically fulfill male fart fetish?

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First, I must say, I really appreciate this community. I’ve been here for a while and it has made me feel less alone with my fetish.

As I get older I’m becoming more open and comfortable (thankfully) with my fetish. I’ve even told hook ups about it and guys have surprisingly been receptive. When asked if they could casually fart around me, they’ll sometimes let one rip eventually or either say “I’ll try but can’t guarantee it’ll happen” or politely decline

However I also have a fetish for farting in other guy’s presence for their overall reaction but I don’t know how to go about this ethically. It feels sort of predatory to meet up with a grindr hook up to solely get off from farting in their presence without informing them that I’m getting off on the act. Same goes for farting in front of my guy friends. I guess I just want to be transparent anytime I’m getting off :joy:

It’s weird after seeing tons of fart videos online I still don’t know how to quantify the level of comfortability guys have around one another to fart around their friends.

For context I’m in America.

Maybe I’m overthinking this but curious to hear other’s thoughts :slightly_smiling_face:

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You pose a good question and one I always wonder about with this fetish. Is it better to let people know that farting gets me off, or keep it to myself and just hope they rip one around me? Same thing with getting off on ripping one around others. I too love farting around other guys, but don’t want to make a situation weird or awkward by doing that (even if they aren’t aware it’s for sexual reasons).

As much as it seems through the media that guys are fart obsessed (and yes some are), I constantly end up in situations where the guys I know or meet don’t find it amusing at all. So why make them uncomfortable even if it does give me a rush to rip a few around them? Are your friends ok with farting already? That would determine if I were to do it around them or not. Who knows, they could be into it as well but never say anything. Chances are slim obviously, but there’s still a chance - and at the very least it might bring them joy to fart around their buds. Sure brings me joy!

I guess it boils down to if you’d be comfortable knowing someone was attracted to something you did unknowingly. Sometimes I find it’s just better to not worry about it and as long as you’re not overstepping any boundaries someone else has set, I think you can do whatever makes you feel best!

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I’ll also add, sometimes you’ve just gotta fart around someone to test the waters. If you’re good enough friends already, it shouldn’t matter much if you let a small one go and see what happens.

I’ve had both sides happen - one friend told me how gross it was, and I never did it again - another joined in with a fart of his own. You could get lucky … wishing you the best : )

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Hate having this fetish. So fucking complicated to get anything because of issues like this. I’m not really into face farting or any of that stuff. I’m into dudes hanging out together and ripping ass, locker room banter, that kind of stuff. But how do I get any of that as a visibly gay guy? Gay guys generally don’t do any of that. Straight guys more often do, but they’re not into it. My dream would be to have straight guy friends to fart around with, but at the same time I feel bad trying to befriend guys just to fulfill a fetish.

To answer your question I don’t think there’s anything wrong with farting around guys and seeing their reaction. If they fart back or something then it’s all fair game and they don’t have to know you’re into it. But even getting the chance to do that is where I struggle because I don’t have anything in common with straight guys, so I dont know how to get fulfilment without forcing myself to befriend them with an ulterior motive. I’d love to meet straight guys I genuinely get along with but I can’t even imagine what we’d talk about…

I’ve tried meetups but 90% of them who are open to my fetish (understandably) want something sexual in return, and I’m not into that. The best thing I’ve found wa jerking off with them and encouraging them to fart, but all the times I tried, they weren’t gassy enough to even fart once. And even then, I don’t find it as hot as if it were dudes farting for laughs.

Finding dudes with the same fetish is downright impossible. Grindr fucking sucks and has no filters. Haven’t had any luck on Scruff. All the fart forums are gone. Snapchat has no search function and the people on there just want to send boring fart snaps back and forth, which do nothing for me anymore when I can get much better vids on YouTube.

My entire sexuality is basically just finding farts on YouTube and Tik Tok (which isn’t even fully ethical because they do this for laughs, not because they’re into it). I feel miserable honestly. I hate this fetish and I’ve had dark thoughts because of it

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Man I do not envy you guys in this respect. I have a burping fetish and for some basically stupid reason burping in front of people is seen as slightly better than farting by most people.

To be honest, you should just do it, not an overly obsessive amount. But farting in front of others occasionally shouldn’t be seen as “unethical”, yes it maybe seen as impolite, but so is burping and people get away with doing disgusting burps in front of others all the time. And a lot of guys already make a point of farting in front of other guys for no other reason than they find it funny or amusing.

Sometimes with a fetish like these we have to take the low road of “what they don’t know won’t hurt them”. That is, they are not going to have any idea you are being aroused by it unless you tell them, beyond that, the worst they can do is politely ask you not to do it in front of them. But as long as it wasn’t constant stinky farts I am pretty sure most people will just let it slide, especially other guys.

Like Thisisitbro mentioned, sometimes you just have to test the waters, let one rip and gauge it from there. And honestly, most people are probably farting around you constantly, they just do them silently, I know I sure as hell do.

Just out of curiosity, what is the reaction you are looking for when you fart around another guy? Like what is the ideal reaction? I’m curious about the farting fetish and how it may relate to the burping fetish.

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For me ideal reaction would be that the guy finds farts REALLY funny and makes a comment, laughs, gives me a fist bump, etc. or even better, rips one back. Id love if the guy announced his farts before doing them, bragged about them, rated mine or asked me to rate his, that kind of stuff

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Ah yes, that makes sense. I have similar desire but to burp in front of girls for their reaction, though unfortunately I cannot burp at all, not even small ones.

After reading your previous comment it is clear you are going through a bit of a dark time coming to terms with your fetish… That truly sucks bro, I feel for ya. If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you? I am 34 but did go through similar stuff with my own fetish when I was younger.

It may seem impossible looking at it from your current perspective, but you just have to find a way to fulfil your fetish and not feel guilty or bad about it. The whole “ethics” thing is really not worth dwelling on in my opinion, you didn’t choose to be born with this, we can’t help what arouses us and there is nothing really sinister about a farting or in my case burping fetish. Like I said before, what people don’t know, can’t hurt them.

And I won’t lie to you, finding people that share the same fetish is basically impossible other than on a forum like this. I am not exactly sure how rare a fart fetish is but if it is anything like burping fetish, it is pretty super rare, if you have put all your hopes on meeting someone with the fetish…It is kind of a false hope, and I don’t say that to upset you or make you feel worse but we have to be realistic at the end of the day.

Finding people who are open to it on the other hand maybe easier, but of course unless you are paying them money they are going to want some kind of sexual thing in return, no one wants to indulge someone elses fetish and get nothing out of it, it’s just simple as that.

And in regards to meeting straight guys to befriend, it may seem like you have nothing in common with them, but you’d be surprised. Being gay doesn’t come with it’s own set of interests does it? I mean if we want to be stereotypical about it then yeah of course they do and gays and straights can never be friends… But you know as well as I do that is not true, not in 2023. And there is nothing wrong with starting out with the ulterior motive, countless times I have befriended girls because they caught my attention with their burps, if it’s a good basis to motivate you to get yourself out there then it’s all good. You just got to genuinely build on it from there, maybe it will work out and you won’t feel as though you are just their friend for that reason.

Sorry for the long msg my friend, I really want to try help, but I probably just talk shit a lot of the time. But everything I have said is based on my own experiences with my fetish which isn’t so different from yours. The worst thing you can do is hate your fetish, you have to embrace it, embrace it to the point that you feel sorry for people who don’t get to experience it, those normal fools watching their porn hubs. Hahaha.

If you want to talk further, feel free to pm me. I hope you can feel better about things. And I hope I did not speak out of turn. My apologies if I did. I shall be quiet now.

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Not sure if I’ll share anything new or relevant, but wanted to chime in with a couple of thoughts.

I agree with a lot that was shared here, specially what @Omnius discussed.

Regarding the ethics question, I personally don’t see this as something I find myself struggling with. I try to be very practical when it comes to these things and I think that most human interactions are passible of having “ulterior” motives. Sometimes you might be talking to a person and you don’t make much of it, but the other person could very well be trying to pave the way to something else with you, or just fantasizing of fulfilling some fetish of their own with you. So I don’t think we should feel bad at all for interacting with people trying to get some fulfillment out of it, granted that no one is being harmed.

That, however, is not the same for me as hanging out with someone for the sole reason of wanting them to do something for you (though I don’t see it as wrong either, just something that I would personally consider a waste of time). I have had many situations where I started talking to a guy cuz I thought he was cute and I was curious about him burping/farting, but I only actually invested more energy into it once I felt like I genuinely liked the person regardless of what they might (not) do. Specially because, for me, I could only get any thrill out of hearing the person burping/farting around me in real life if there was some level of connection with them.
Even with videos that also happens. I can get off to almost any video of a guy being gassy, but it tends to get to me a little more if I genuinely like the guy I’m watching.

Also, much like @BlueAngel , I’m not into facefarting or any kind of real-life sexual interaction where the fetish might come to play. I have a more voyeuristic approach to it where I like witnessing guys doing it because they have to do it with the guarantee that there is no sexual implications in it. Which is why nowadays I avoid sharing about my fetish with others. In the past I’d talk about it with closer friends in the hopes that the person would feel more inclined to doing it. However, not only did the person never do it even though they knew I was into it (and honestly I should be clear and stating I wanted them to do it in the first place), but also, over time I realized I wouldn’t feel the thrill I normally feel if the person did it cuz they were trying to arouse me or if they were consciously trying to be arousing. The casuality of it accounts to about 50% of why I find it hot lol

So, the point I’m trying to get to is: I personally encourage you to go ahead and try farting at least once around some guys you’re hanging out with often, in case you feel like you’re connected enough to them. Since the reaction is what will bring you enjoyment, you could be surprised with a positive reaction or maybe even a response from the nether regions. Another possible starting point could be showing them something involving farting (a TikTok, a movie where you know there’s a fart scene, a joke, or something to this effect) and see how they respond to it. If they laugh more than you would expect, then there’s a chance you farting could make them get amused by it even more.
Also, I understand you want to be transparent about your sexual interests towards others, and that is a great thing, but come to think of it, hypothetically: if you had the hots for a guy and jerked off to the thought of him doing something sexual, would you immediately regret it and/or share your sexual intentions with him, in order to be transparent?
I can’t answer this for you but, if the answer to this is no, then there is a chance the thing with farting is not so so related to being transparent, but it could be more about you (understandably) feeling uncertain on how to approach the fetish since it’s not something we’re taught how to do in life. And that is somewhat good, because it gives us the opportunity to navigate and explore this fetish in many ways and find what works best for us.
I come from the headspace that, as long as you are not actually forcing anyone to do anything, and things are mostly in your head and you’re just trying to see what happens, there is nothing wrong with it. As long as you are not crossing people’s boundaries, then hardly any harm is being done :slight_smile:

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I appreciate everyone’s feedback and discourse on this!!

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