quick update: I haven’t told her because I haven’t needed to; she started burping around me! She stayed with me this past weekend and I can definitely tell she’s getting more comfortable around me, which is probably in part because of how open I am myself with my bodily functions (seriously, if you ever want to encourage someone to burp or fart just do it frequently yourself and normalize it). Her burps around me were still quite sparse but some other interesting things happened that were really hot and gave me reason for optimism. We cooked this big pasta meal one night and afterwards it made us both really gassy. However, I was the only one actually farting because she vocally refused to do it around me, but she mentioned multiple times how she had gas building inside her and she was in a lot of discomfort the whole night - to the point that while we were in separate rooms she actually let out a decently loud fart and played it off, but she later told me it was an accident and she was kind of mortified about the whole thing but I downplayed it obviously. I’m not super into farts personally but admittedly this experience was really hot, especially when we were cuddling and I was cradling and massaging her belly which was visibly swollen (and she made embarrassed comments about), although I hope moving forward she accepts that she doesn’t need to hold everything in around me and cause herself unnecessary pain and discomfort. Then the next day after I had gone out for a few hours to do work I came back and she was in my room with an empty bottle of kombucha on my nightstand. Eventually we were talking about how gassy we both were the night before and joking about her fart, which somehow led to her bringing up how she’s cool with burping around me but doesn’t do it a lot - however she then added that the kombucha she drank had her “burping up a storm” while I was gone and she was afraid my neighbors might’ve heard her. I asked “they were that loud huh?” and she nodded with what seemed like a hint of pride almost. Needless to say I was kind of stupefied by her telling me this. Anyways, just thought I would share.
Buy your girl kombucha from time to time. And yeah, that seems to do it for everyone who drinks it. lol
Am I to understand from this that when you say the topic came up, you just mean burping in general, not the fetish itself? Because if you have been with her that long and you’re having sex, it’s probably the right time to tell her everything, bro. And if you did tell her fully about your fetish, and that was her reaction, then I’d just say dump her, bro, because that’s ruthless.
There’s really no point in hiding it from her in the long run. And it’s hard to expect her to burp around you if she doesn’t even know you want her to or why you would want her to. It’s unfair to expect it of her if she doesn’t know about your fetish.
She may say she doesn’t burp around people in a relationship til she is deep into it, but by telling her your fetish, her point of view should change completely. I mean, if she CAN burp and she wants to be with you and be your sexual partner, then what possible reason could she have to deny you? It costs her nothing and brings enjoyment into the relationship. It’s literally a part of who you are and your sexual identity; if she cannot understand that, then why bother to continue things with her? You can’t just deny your burp fetish forever for her sake; it’s not healthy, man.
The only other reason she may not have to burp for you is that she can’t do it, fair enough, but you said you kinda noticed her doing some, and she also didn’t deny being able to do it when you brought up burping, so that’s a good sign.
Don’t be discouraged by her reaction when you talked about burping, it’s relatively meaningless in the grand scheme. If she wants to be with you and accept you as you are, her perception of burping will have to change, and the only way to do that is to tell her fully about the fetish. It may seem like a scary conversation, but it doesn’t really hold much risk, in my opinion; either way, you win.