Intimacy Issues Post Burping Ex Girlfriend

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Sorry for the long post but I don’t really know where else to come with this and I’m wondering if anyone has had similar issues or can offer some advice.

Basically as the title says - I recently broke up with a girl who was a phenomenal burper. First half the relationship never heard her burp, second half, she changed her diet and over night became the best female burper I’ve ever heard. That first half of the relationship, sex was decent but would have my struggles getting hard but once she started burping that was never a problem again. I could always think back to her last burp and it would be all I needed.

I’m now dating again post the relationship and met this very very attractive girl who is quite sexual, really a lot to like about her that way. First night, I could get nothing going erection wise (blamed it on alcohol). Next day, I got viagra which which helped get it up but I found I couldn’t finish myself even after she was done. This happened a few times and I could tell she was sad even letting me know how much she wanted me to cum on her several times etc. Again I just said I have trouble finishing the day after drinking to ease her worries (which isn’t true based on the previous relationship).

So I get home and I’m trying to masturbate and get myself there by thinking about the sex we had - which was really good btw - but nothing. So I’ve come to the realisation that basically the last few years during the previous relationship, I’ve either been finishing during sex to thought of my gf burping or masturbating to a video of a girl burping i.e. burps are always involved in getting me there, don’t watch any other type of material when masturbating for example. Now I’m starting to think this may be a deeper issue now that my brain has been spoiled for content with my previous partner and this new girl has already claimed she “doesn’t burp”.

I feel like I need to get a handle of this as having to take viagra to get hard in the first place and not be able to finish myself is not going to be a very fulfilling sex life for me or whomever I’m with.

I won’t ever admit to the fetish and I never did in the previous relationship, it’s just not an option I want to explore. I’m just wondering if anyone has some advice or has had a similar experience to share as I am a bit worried this may cause issues down the line for me.

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It’s been an issue for me too, not that I can’t get hard at all, but it doesn’t linger as much as say watching a burping video

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I always recommend telling people about the fetish. Maybe it’s necessary to do it slowly and cautiously, but that should always be the direction. I was with a girl once too who couldn’t burp and who I never talked to about fetishes, and it was frustrating all the way through the relationship. It’s unfortunate if you get along with the person in every other way, but you’ve gotta be sexually compatible too.

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I’m with Q on communication and telling your partner what you need and what you like. If this woman wants you to cum on her and is super sexual, I have a feeling she’ll come to accept some kinks. For all you know, she’s got some too.

Sexual compatibility is very important and it shouldn’t be overlooked.

Also, the troubles you’re having may not be due to missing burps. It could honestly be the stress of the situation and you worrying about it. All the more reason to talk to your lady about this. Idk how old you are but if you’re young, communication skills like this are very important and may save you a lot of time and heartache later.

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Yeah see it’s not that I’m necessarily embarrassed by it, I’m fairly open myself. It’s more that it’s a thing every time she’d burp forever even in a non sexual setting which I don’t really like the idea of.

In the previous relationship one would happen around normally and it would be a nice little jolt for me and something to store in my mind for later.

Also I’m more of a natural burp guy anyway and I just think it always being there in both our consciousness with any burp which would just not be the same for me if that makes sense.

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could you try asking for sex right after she’s been drinking something fizzy, like soda or alcohol? maybe she’ll be more likely to burp during sex, which could help. you could maybe even say something like, “that was kinda cute/hot actually” and see if she’ll do it again

best of luck mate

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