Hi, so I’m new to the forums and I’m seeking advice. I’m dating a guy who has a burping fetish. We’ve been dating for about 7 months and he shared his secret indulgence with me about a month into our relationship. I originally had no problem with his desires and I was happy to perform for him/on him. It was actually quite fun because I enjoyed pleasing him and fulfilling his fantasies. However I caught myself becoming curious about the content he was watching and listening to prior to us being together so I decided to look into it simply out of curiosity since I don’t have a fetish myself and this is all new to me. Unfortunately I’ve developed performance anxiety in fear my belching ability isn’t up to par with what he is use to or what he may prefer. I’ve become extremely self conscious about the whole thing to the point I can’t even burp naturally around him anymore which tears me apart because I still want to satisfy his needs. I’ve been deep diving through the rabbit hole (which lead me to this site) on how to burp on command, types of exercises for throat muscles, abdominal vacuum exercises, tips, tricks and all sorts of techniques. I’ve even watched countless tutorials and honestly have been practicing almost all day and I can’t seem to overcome my fear that I’m not good enough even while practicing alone.
Has anyone else had partners that struggled to perform and if so what did they do to overcome the mental roadblocks and regain their confidence?
I could really use some personal advice from someone with experience in teaching others to burp. I’m open to literally anything and everything. I’m in desperation mode at this point.
Thank you in advance for any amount of help, support, encouragement; and guidance.
I probably can’t help your burp skills much, but hun. Lovely. It’s okay. I’m sure he likes you and your burps you can do just fine. Oftentimes, we all like different kinds of burps, not just “big ones”. Context matters too. A lovely lady burping for our benefit, even if they’re barely there, is far more attractive than say, a random lady on the train.
There’s plenty of burp advice here on the forums, and by all means use it, but I hope this at least helped your confidence recover a bit ;-; Everything is okay <3
Very brave of you to share this with strangers on the internet!
Worth saying that the experiences of a girl burping on a video and a real girl burping right in front of you are VERY different. The world of girls burping on camera is a weird fantasy world where girls can unleash huge monstrous 10+ second burps, but I think it’s safe to say that kind of expectation doesn’t extend to the real world.
If a guy with a burp fetish is confronted by a girl he likes who is willing to burp for him, even the smallest burps become incredibly exciting! There is no reason to compare yourself with the girls on the internet. They exist in a different world, and nobody expects you to be that proficient. If you were, you’d probably kill him with the shock.
That said, it’s cool you’re looking into learning how to burp on command!
Start small, just learn to swallow a little air at a time before moving on to bigger stuff. Long and the short of it is that you need to learn how to control your epiglottis (a flap in your throat) in order to direct air into your oesophagus rather than your lungs. Sounds weird and unnatural to describe it like that, but it’s more of an instinctual thing once you’ve figured it out. Happy to send the link to the tutorial I used if that would help. It’s the Emma Graves one.
Thank you kindly TheTraveler, that means a lot.! I’ve definitely been utilizing this platform and reading into all the topics and advice posts that I can find. I’m determined to continue practicing and improve not only the skill but confidence again. I know it probably wasn’t easy for him to share his desires with me so the least I can do is continue working towards being able to perform again organically.
Again thank you for the kind words and encouragement. I genuinely appreciate it.
It’s the same as any other sexual preference really.
Imagine he really liked girls with big boobs and that was all he watched before meeting you. Let’s say you have big boobs and he told you how much he loves them. If you look up everything he’s watched before and see girls with even bigger boobs, would you be worried?
I’m sure he loves you for you, the burping is just a nice bonus that makes him love you more, it’s not the starting point.
Thank you Chrisomarvel.! I’m not going to lie it was extremely intimidating even considering sharing my story on here but the more topics and comments I read; the more comfortable I became. I can tell it’s a safe space to share experiences here and I also see how supportive the community is.
I understand that content creators are masters of their craft hence their status and I also get that most people don’t expect their real life partner to exceed the expectations of perfection you see online but it’s still is a little discouraging trying to compete with it. I try not to let it get to my head too much but lately I’ve been mentally blocking the ability to be comfortable or confident within my burps. It’s just weird because I know how to burp and I’ve always been able to but my brain simply isn’t allowing my body to function properly and naturally…it’s like I’m subconsciously suppressing them.
I even started looking into the Botox that people get for R-CPD, I figured if all else fails that at least is something to potentially consider.
Again thank you for the advice and feedback! And I would love if you could send the link, that would be extremely helpful and most appreciated!
That is very true shark4000.! Thank you for reminding me of that.! I know my biggest problem is letting the performance anxiety get into my head which makes it hard for me to relax physically.
I know he loves me and is just happy I’m trying and willing to explore this new endeavor for him but I still can’t help felt guilty for being unable to fully satisfy that need ya know?
Honestly, it’s just like comparing yourself to any other erotic fantasy material. It’s not healthy to do so, especially when you are assuming the content he likes. As many have said, I’m sure he’s over the moon that you are accepting and accommodating of his fetish. If you want to practice and improve, knock yourself out, but he probably loves your burps, no matter how big or small, because they come out of you. So relax, let your burps flow as they do, and enjoy your happy relationship!
Ok. It’s simple. talk to each other and get a undestanding on both sides. It’s and OBSERVING and accepting. Try to be non jusgemental. That’s what I see on my end. You have made a decision together WITH him. Change perspectives. Make tantric stuff if you like. Make it even more a better experience, if you like. Move ya to him. You have already the talent to burp. I see it in front of me. And also you already leveled up. See if it works!
Yeah honestly irl is always gonna to beat a video, plus the connection you have with him should make it feel even more special. The fact you are even trying to get better for him is an insanely loving gesture. Just relax and keep burping for him as you did before. I wouldnt worry too much about it, if you can get better thats great but if not its fine. Imo the best thing u could do is just ask him what he likes about burps. Big burps can be great but theres so much more to burps that us in this community appreciate he might like roleplay, soda burps, airy burps, closed mouth, etc. also dont get botox just to burp better, many people have gone from not even being able to on command to absolute masters by just practicing.
so I’m gonna cut through the bs for you. can you do a decent natural burp? like after eating a large meal or even drinking a soda, have you ever managed, at least once in your life, a nice sounding belch with some depth? that’s really the crux of the issue. if you’re unsure buy a carton of sparkling water or beer and see what’s the best you can mange over the course of drinking it.
there are a lot of girls out their who can suck in crazy amounts of air for earsplitting burps but in terms of their natural ability to burp, sort of the tone they’re physically capable of, most fall into a normal average.
if you can confirm that it’s at least possible for you to do a ‘belch’ then I wouldn’t worry at all, sky’s the limit, keep practicing. but at the end of the day I’m sure your guy would be pleased by you letting out the occasional soda/food induced burp(a good soda burp can often rival the best on command ones).
on the other hand you may be one of the unlucky few that are simply not physically capable of burping very well. there’s a certain small percentage of girls out there that even when they know how to burp on command really well they have kind of weak, airy burps. I would try with soda and gulping air for a good while before coming to that conclusion though.
chances are you’re an average burper, and are more than capable of doing some good ones once you know what you’re doing. don’t worry so much at matching the best of the best right away, you can learn it will just take awhile.
Seriously thank you guys so much for all the support, advice, encouragement, and constructive feedback; I genuinely appreciate it all.!
With much love and appreciation- Aurora
Quick update:
I figured out how to queue in on my own ability and ranges.
P.s
I really respect this forum and the community.
I was worried about chiming in and asking questions but everyone who reached out helped not only my understanding but confidence as well and I can’t thank you enough .
and don’t worry, really.
