It's annoying to be attracted only to a specific physical type or to have particular kinks and fetishes, in addition to being greysexual or asexual.

[Gayburper]

I’m writing this post because I was wondering if I’m the only one here who sometimes gets bothered by having particular kinks and fetishes (I have a lot), in addition to being attracted to only one specific body type (stocky, big, fat men, and hairy​) and being gay too (oh yeah, and I’m graysexual or ace). It greatly limits my choices in life when it comes to sexuality. Whenever I had the opportunity to have sex with guys, I politely declined because, of course, I wasn’t very interested in sex, and they didn’t attract me physically because I’m only attracted to one specific body type. I don’t know why I’m so “strict,” “specific,” and “complicated” in my sexual tastes, but it’s not something I control. Unfortunately, we don’t decide what we are or aren’t attracted to. I have kinks, and Attractions that deviate greatly from the norm. Luckily, thanks to Grommr, I’ve sometimes met big guys with whom I’ve been able to fulfill fetishes and kinks( face burping, belly crushing, feederism ), but I haven’t managed to stay in touch with them. What’s also strange is that I’ve never been in love in my entire life, even though I’m 30. I sometimes wonder if I might be aromantic too. But I don’t know. (Maybe I’m one of those people who only experience sexual pleasure with those who have had a deep emotional connection, I don’t know). And you, do you also feel handicapped or restricted by your kinks, fetishes, or specific attractions?

And how do you deal with this on a daily basis? Have you found a way to fix it? (For me, it’s the Grommr app, but I rarely meet big guys on it.)

List of my fetishes and kinks.

Gaybears belly
Burping.
Vore.
Macro, micro.
Feeding.
Belly play.
Belly rub
Belly squashing.
Belly Roll/belly wave
Belly gurgle noise.
Eating like a pig.
To small clothings.
Deep belly button.
Fat Guy teasing

[ruttofan]

I can definitely relate to you. But, I don’t have any particular body type in mind when it comes to the fetish. Any guy who can burp on command instantly becomes extremely attractive to me. I’m usually more into athletic or slender Latin or Asian men. But, ever since puberty, I get super aroused when I see or even hear a dude burp at will repeatedly anytime he wants. I have rarely taken this fetish into the real world, because I feel like I am using people just for kink fulfillment. I have nothing to offer in return that could possibly reciprocate. I am also into the belly roll and abdominal vacuum thing along with the air gulping and inhaling part of burping on command. Thanks to Chaturbate and a huge collection of belching content online, I don’t have to be a creepy stalker trying to get guys to burp in my personal life. But, am I admire the people in this community that have success stories with personal relationships in which the fetish is an essential component.

[Gayburper]

That’s good for you then, if you’re happy that way. I’m not the worst off either, because thanks to grommr I’ve also been able to fulfill my fantasies with other big guys in exchange for feedings and belly rubs. So in the end it’s all good, we’re not doing too badly. It’s mainly outside of these platforms that, well… it’s more complicated.

[Gayburper]

Oh yeah, I forgot, but I also like big men , but in a particular way. I like big, well-proportioned men (according to my personal and subjective tastes). And I don’t like them if they’re “too” fat (if you feel like slapping me, I understand ). I’m a pain with my narrow-minded criteria. So, I have this additional problem: even some big men don’t attract me if they’re too fat or poorly proportioned.

[Lovelai]

I can relate in a way, though I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with having specific things that kinda restrict some things, especially if you have a specific type (for me it’s skinny/lean) Also it’s normal to wanna engage in meaningful conversations and or more first, speaking since I myself don’t really like sex talk unless I feel something more first or anything else etc.