This situation is just, idk but don’t worry, it’s gonna haunt me for a long time (who cares it’s not about me), I just wish I did better and stopped the convo way earlier, or just didn’t engage at all. I’ve learned my lesson that yeah it’s not just burps, for everyone here, it’s sexual (and for some maybe emotional). At this point I don’t even care about how bad I feel I’ll just have to deal with that, the only thing is I have no way to contact his partner, and I know I made a post back then about this, but this definitely feels more serious cause I remember one comment said “something the op shouldn’t even think twice about”, Idk but I just don’t think that’s true! Cause having a partner is a lovely thing, and I’ve NEVER wanted to basically be a homewrecker or anything. Then I was wondering, do some rly not care that much about that?? Either way, I’ve learned to set new boundaries for lots of stuff, like the age thing too. I’m never usually risky like this, and I’m not stupid. I know what lines you shouldn’t cross and my family and I despise ppl that help others cheat and cheaters in general, but I waited a bit to finally ask about the situation, and I just don’t know how ppl who egg on scenarios like this (physical or text) can live with themselves (or live with myself). Thought process, I’ll ask about this situation I saw cause this seems serious, especially if it’s happened multiple times, except I wait to say that until a bit after burps were sent. Why? Cuz, for lots of stuff like how I also asked about whether to care too much about the age thing (except for younger), I was like “I guess it’s not too much of a deal?” Until after everything happened, up to deleting his account again after we finally had an honest conversation about it, I THOUGHT everything was tame, but it QUICKLY started clicking in my brain, “that was bad wasn’t it? Cause I asked about it and clearly there’s an addiction going on. But wait, what the frick have I done? This is the kinda crap we all disagree with, the kinda stuff ppl call other ppl evil for, did I just commit a sin???” The reason I talk about this again is well, i just wish I could contact the gf in some way cause this is the OPPOSITE if what I stand by!! And it can’t just go away cause this is serious and it makes me so mad and I should’ve done what another comment said when I was asking about the age thing to “not engage” (or maybe just make better/not stupid decisions because DUH IT’S STILL OVER TEXT AND THAT’S CHEATING) I never thought I’d be in a complicated thing like this cause I don’t even talk to ppl or go out doing risky stuff anyways!! I don’t wanna cause havoc to another girl’s life cause as I’ve stated, loving is nice and I wouldn’t like if it happened to me, texting in any way is just as bad as physical, and I just wish the partner knew cause that sucks and I don’t know
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Ah ok, now I understand, honestly it was a learning experience for you, some may view it as a mistake, others won’t, but you learned something. Setting boundaries is always a good thing to practice. If you feel even slightly uncomfortable about doing something in the future, being able to say no is a great skill to have. You aren’t necessarily a home wrecker, and while the convo you shared with the other user isn’t totally harmless, it’s over now. Personally I would just take the lesson and grow from it, people are human, we all make mistakes, and all that matters is that we learn from them!