I’ve never told another person about my fetish, but recently I’ve told my partner that I have some things that turn me on that are kinda unconventional. He really wants to know and he says that he would love to hear about what I like. I’m just so embarrassed to even say it out loud. I completely trust him and I have no doubts that he would be incredibly supportive, but I feel like I can’t even bring myself to say it. Does anyone have any advice on how to work up the courage? Or even stories about if you’ve ever shared your fetish with someone. My biggest worry is that it’s going to make things weird when any of our friends burps around us (a very common occurrence) because now he’ll know. But I think he hopefully will be on board with it, he sometimes playfully burps in my face and I have to lock in on acting normally haha
Yea i used to have this embaressment and pretty badly too. It took awhile to get the courage to bring it up. From my personal experiences its very hard to do it the first time and it will still feel weird for awhile but ive found that every time I talked to it with my partner it got easier every time. They were super supportive of it and never once made me feel weird about it. When it comes to other people burping I just act nonchalant and my partner has never brought it up about other people. Hope you will get the courage to tell him I would be very surprised if he got weird about it, in the grand scheme of kinks its really not that bad. Hope this helps ^~^
Thanks for your response! It makes me glad to hear about others having positive experiences telling their partners. I feel like he’s going to be super supportive but I still feel so much embarrassment. I’ve got no clue how to word it even. “I’ve got a burping fetish.” “I like it when guys burp.” Any way I can word it has me cringing just thinking about saying out loud haha. I feel like I’m probably overthinking it
Yea these are secrets we usually keep to ourselves so the thought of saying it out loud is going to sound cringey no matter what, but I’ll tell you it really feels good to say it out loud after a bit. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck ^~^
If it’s your first time telling anyone, it’s going to be awkward no matter what. But, based on how you said he seems interested, I can’t imagine you’ll have any kind of negative response. Focus instead on what good could come of it!
With my partners, even when they can’t do it at all (unfortunately the most common case), I still feel better after telling them just for the sake of transparency and trust, if nothing else.
Thank you for your comment! I agree that I’m going to probably feel much better after telling him. He’s not shy at all about burping and even lets huge ones out in public so I can’t imagine him being disgusted by me being into it
Really wishing you the best of luck! It can be awkward to have people close to you who know about the fetish but in my experience (as someone who’s told most of my friends and has a loving girlfriend who’s very willing to indulge me) the benefits outweigh the momentary awkwardness. And I think being direct about what you feel and what you want is the best option for telling him!
Thank you for your comment! It sounds like it’s gotta be a relief to finally open up about it. I never imagined being able to talk about it no matter how much I trusted the person but I’ve recently had a change of heart. Hearing others talk about their positive experiences has helped for sure!
I have an update! I told him I was almost ready to tell him, but was still really nervous. I blurted out “Sometimes I find it hot when guys burp.” I couldn’t look at him because I was so embarrassed. He asked “Really?” And I nodded. A few moments of silence and then he laughs and says “That’s so awesome!” He then said he needs to pick up a case of soda for us. And reassured me that it’s not that weird, and that he’s glad I told him. Thank you guys for your positive comments, they gave me the courage to be open about it. You all were right, I do feel better after telling him (although the embarrassment hasn’t fully worn off yet lol)
This update sounds like the two of you, are gonna stocking up on fizzy drinks and also..be spending A LOT of time together
Lol yup this sounds exactly like what happened when I confessed to my gf. Eventually the embarassment will wear off and burping will just become a regular part of both of your sex lives. I bet in a few months neither of you will be actively thinking about it as something deviant.
This is so great to hear ^~^ im so happy he was so supportive of this for you. Really glad you found the courage to do it. Hope everything goes as good as your hoping for ^^
Thanks everyone! So far it’s been pretty great, he keeps telling me I’m the coolest lol. He’s very happy that this whole time I’ve been really enjoying something he does so frequently. He asked me what kind of burps I like best so he knows how to tease me. I’m so glad I got the courage to tell him, it was thanks to all your encouraging comments so thank you all!
This is great to see! I’m so happy for you.
Referring to your point about what they might think when someone else burps, I tend to think a few things. For me, if I’m in a relationship, they’re the person I fancy, they’re the one I want to be with and them burping is the sexiest part. In the same way someone in my family might burp, it doesn’t automatically mean it’s hot, or, other people burping is the same as if you see a hot person at the beach. It might be objectively attractive, but that doesn’t mean you want to walk straight over there and jump them (perhaps, haha). So it needs trust in the same way. You will hear burps, but they can trust you not to act sexually on them! You know.
And yeah, the more you say this stuff out loud, the more you play with it, the more you involve it sexually, the more confident and comfortable you both will get and I am just so excited for you to enjoy that!