Should I do it?

Hi guys,

So I’m in a new relationship and wanted to ask some advice about whether to share my fetish or not? She’s very eager to please me and asked all sorts of questions related to conventional sex but there’s always doubt in my mind when it comes to this sort of thing. I don’t know if she can burp and I wouldn’t want the relationship to rest solely on whether she can or not but ultimately it’s an important part of my sexuality.

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If the subject arises, go for it.

Otherwise, it might go a little awry, the last thing you want to do is scare her away, but I’m sure it wouldn’t be a big deal.

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I’d give it some time. For me trusting the person with this information is more important than instant sexual gratification. Do your best to focus on conventional sex stuff now, then in a few months maybe bring it up. I’ve been in both situations where I regretted telling a girl too soon but also not telling partners who I loved. So there’s a happy medium here

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But unlike your previous relationships she seems pretty eager to please you regardless of how weird it may seem. In contrast, i suppose you shouldnt rush it but you should be able to pick up on if she will feel uncomfortable and gage her reaction before telling her.

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Oof, that cut deep. :joy:

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Talking about kinks with new partners is always super scary! I’ve only told one partner about my less conventional kinks and that was only because they brought up theirs first.

Do you think you could be happy participating in this kink on your own and just having conventional sex with your partner? If the answer to that is no, then I think you owe it to yourself to live that truth!

If I was in your position (and I hope I will be confident enough to talk about kinks with partners someday), I would present the information without shame and the same level of respect you would bring to any other sexual conversation.

I hope everything turns out well! Let us know how it goes if you decide to bring it up with her! :slight_smile:

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Thanks for your responses guys, this is why this community is great.

I didn’t mean for it to sound offensive! Just trying to help is all

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Nah just kidding man. :smile:

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ALWAYS always always make sure that if you have the kink-talk with a partner that you’re NOT just saying “hey, can you fulfill all these kinks for me?”

Make sure you’re intentionally basing the conversation about BOTH you and their kinks.

“Hey, wanna talk about my kinks?” BAD

“Hey, if you’re comfortable with it would you want to share our kinks with each other?” GOOD

Don’t be selfish! Not that you are, just stressin this point. It needs to be about both parties comfort and desires. Not just one side.

As long as you’re open and honest and respectful and willing to let them discuss their kinks every bit as much as you do yours, you’re on the right track.

Good luck and godspeed!

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Update:

I’ve decided to hold off for a while, we really enjoy our time together and the things we do already. She has actually asked me if I have any kinks when I touched on the subject, she’s not all that familiar with it. I told her to give me some time and I’ll tell her when I’m ready.

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How it went for me:

My ex burped. I told her “Hey you know, that turns me on.”
First she found it strange, afterwards she found it fun and exciting. On purpose she started burping as often and loud as she can. Well she enjoys anyway, it’s her thing.

And I told her afterwards it is not something I control or something I want, it is just something that happens for no rationally explainable reason. It’s biology, I didn’t choose this fetish.

The real problem is when she asked if I watch girls burp online hahaha. Now that is a conversation I really didn’t want to have. But I guess it comes with the package,

Good luck!

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Oh god, I didn’t even think of that! How did you navigate that conversation? I can’t exactly lie and say I haven’t watched hundreds if not thousands of videos.

You don’t need to lie any more than if you were talking about previous sexual partners. It’s not (necessarily) about policing behavior as much as it is about commitment or self-awareness.

The thing is very simple: if she likes you she won’t care, as long as your behavior doesn’t interfere with your relationship. So if you obsessively watch burping videos, yeah that is not very attractive. But it you admit you watch it from time to time that’s alright, who cares.

In the end it is about what you want. I had a relationship where we would burp and fart in front of each other, it was great but the more it happened the less I needed it. I think I just got it out of my system, now it is not a priority anymore. So go for it, it will lead to some quirky awkward moments, but that is what love and sex is all about.

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