I have been struggling to navigate this particular topic for some time now. As someone who sells a very specific style of fetish porn, I totally understand that sometimes a buyer might want to try for something more than just purchasing content. I can’t be mad that people want to ask me on dates, it is a flattering compliment. But, I would like to make it clear that I am here to sell my content. I am not closed off to the idea that I can be friends with people who buy from me. I am not closed off to the idea that I might even want to go on a date with someone who has bought from me before. I am however, not here looking for a boyfriend. I am not looking for new friends. I am not someone who naturally gets off on the burp fetish, I just like to make the content because I am good at it and I think people should be allowed to have nice orgasms to the porn they enjoy.
The friendships I have developed in this (and the general NSFW community) mean the world to me and I am glad to have those relationships. The thing is, they bought from me multiple times over time and we had a chance to get to know each other while not wasting my time. Yes, I do feel like chatting for hours or even days before you (maybe) make a purchase is a waste of my time. I can come off as “bitchy” because of this and that is fine by me. I have never pretended to be anything other than a content seller and if you’re looking for a relationship, I am not the person to approach.
With that said,
To start out any conversation with asking for a meetup or an irl date is actually terrifying for me. Selling my content online is already dangerous and I know that. I am putting myself at risk to do this thing that I love to do (make porn) because it’s something I have always wanted. I don’t do meetups because they are dangerous. If I even consider meeting someone in person, I know their real name and feel comfortable enough to discuss a visit because they have been actively purchasing from me so much over time that I have actually developed some sort of relationship with them.
When someone who has a random screen name, no profile pic, and literally nothing showing me who they are in real life, wants to ask me for a date, meetup or relationship, I get SCARED. Have you ever seen an episode of CSI or Criminal Minds?? Forgive me for immediately shutting down when someone tries to get too personal but like, I don’t know if you’re going to murder me or lock me in a basement somewhere. If you think I am being dramatic, you have never been a woman walking alone at any hour. The point of this post is to make my intentions clear. I am here to sell fetish content, a very specific kind that you all seem to like. I am not here to make friends, find a boyfriend, or give out free content for nothing. If you have intentions of trying to make me your friend or girlfriend, don’t waste your time. I will be a bitch and you won’t be happy. If you want to take advantage of the fact that I enjoy making this content and then show support with no underlying intentions, I am happy to interact with you. But to open with intentions of getting me to meet up scares me. In general, random people asking to meet me from the internet scares me. Idk how other sellers feel about this, but that’s where I am.
P.S. If this particular post feels like it is directed at one person, that is not the case. This has been a regular occurrence since I’ve started coming to the forum.