I accepted it once I understood what a paraphilla was when I was in my mid-teens. My fetish has been an inherent aspect of my sexuality for as long as I can remember though. I cannot pinpoint with certainty in how/why it developed, but I do remember being around women in my life at a young age that burped. Even though I acknowledged the fetish, I still felt shame, embarrassment, confusion, and loneliness from it. I tried repressing my urges and I remember at one point I thought I might have to keep it a secret my whole life.
When I discovered the Burp Fetish Forums around 2008/2009, it was a huge psychological relief for me. Knowing that other people had the fetish was a game changer and helped me so much mentally. The first time I told a person in real-life was a girl I was dating when I was 22. I have only told women I have been intimate with about the fetish. I have had some mixed reactions, but in general, every girl has been very understanding and non-judgmental about the fetish. I just got out of a long-term relationship where my girlfriend burped for me constantly and it was amazing. I have really come to terms with it and I am confident that I will be able to find a future partner who will do it for me as well.
I just really want to stress to the younger members on the forums that we are all human. Although we all can feel like outcasts with our unique and strange fetish, we also need to give ourselves some self-compassion as well. It isn’t easy having this fetish. We have lived our entire lives having to keep a major secret about our sexuality, just because the majority of people in society don’t have it and don’t understand it. Because of this though, we have created a community over the last decade that has been supportive and therapeutic to many people.
If anybody wants advice on how to go about telling a partner about your fetish let me know. I would recommend not bringing up burping until you are ready to be open and honest about your fetish with a person. If it seems that a sexual relationship could be in the works, or even after you have already had some initial sexual activity, this is the time when you bring it up. No covert questions about burping or encouragement to burp before then. Your first and only discussions with them about burping needs to be genuine and honest in regards to your fetish. It is also okay if they don’t feel comfortable doing it, you have to respect that as well. I promise that there are many people out there who do not have the fetish that would be willing to burp for you though. You just need to be open and honest about it.
Sorry for the long post! Got a little carried away there. Thanks to the moderators for the new website and here’s to another decade of the forum.